Pretty weird that you have to pay anything at all. In my country my boss would not be happy, but he cannot make me pay for that.

First I was like wow, then I started to count how many zero’s there came afterwards. Ouch that hurts.

Shoot for getting about 70% right. That is about where the rest of the world ends up too. And the world is still turning. No need to drive yourself nuts doing the impossible.

I symphatize with that, but it would seem they are definitely not going to last until they are successful. I respect that you work towards renewable energy, but they won’t lose one night of sleep if they have to fire you down the road.

Take care of yourself, good luck.

Edit: I just remembered from another thread. Somebody shared a gem about hoping: Hope in one hand, shit in the other and see which one gets filled first.

Not to say hope is bad, but I also believe in being realistic about things.

Dude, just start looking. Don’t wait for somebody else to leave, be that person.

If somebody else leaves, your workload will increase even more while you try to find a new job. Just take the initiative. And next time, be quicker about it too. Protect yourself.

That is actually pretty funny.

Abuse chances the way you think. It can be fixed. I’ve seen it happen. But you will have to take action, abusers tend to never change.

If you cannot do that, if you keep believing you can’t then you have given up. This is my last reply about this. I wish you the best and hope to hear from you in the future when you are in a better situation.

On the other hand, I am just a stranger on the Internet, so I have no real info about your situation. But I’ve seen hopeless situations like yours before, and I’ve seen them get resolved. So I hope you find a way. Because there always is.

Well, it’s only going to get worse. Go to a shelter. There are resources to help with debt, sometimes government programs.

If you stay you’re just digging the hole deeper. Every day you stay you are making it harder for yourself to leave. I know it is difficult.

You’re in a very very shitty situation. But out of all the choices you have available to you, staying is worst one you could possibly pick.

Do you have any friends or family that you can ask for help?

In the end it is your choice to stay or go. But make sure it is an actual choice and not just submitting because you don’t see a way out.

If you go to a shelter or the cops they might be able to at least explain to you what options you have. Perhaps there are numbers you could call for domestic abuse victims?

It is very important that you take action or things will only get worse. And I cannot imagine you want to struggle the rest of your life while he keeps draining you of all your money.

My gf had been in sort of a similar situation. You need to get out. At all costs. Even if you have to leave the dogs.

He will just do whatever he needs to do to keep you desperate and on his leash. So no matter what you do, he won’t met you save money, he won’t give you a chance to get away ever.

The controlling behavior servers to keep you there at his disposal.

He is not going to change. You will have too. So get of your ass and leave. It’s the only chance you have for a real life again. If you don’t, you basically submit and accept that this will be your life forever.

I know that things may seem hopeless, but the situation you are in is affecting the way you think. You can get away, you can have a normal life but you have to decide that it is over and commit to getting away.

Naked model? Cooking meth? Sex worker?

To the point where you hear a loud bang and some damage appears here or there.

Was lost on the airfield trying to pick up some friends. Borrowed a van, so it wasn’t my car, I was lost and I was tired.

Then I fucked up and made a U-turn without looking and hit another car on the side. Nobody got hurt, but there was some damage.

Exchanged information and we each went on our way. Learned a valuable lesson that day.